Questions from an Empty Nester in a New Land

When the kids finally left home, many questions came to my mind ~

What does it mean to be a “mother” now?

What does it mean to be a “father” now?

What does it mean to be a married couple now after all these years?

What’s our purpose now in life? 

What’s next?…….. For me?….. For you?….. For us?

Who am I now?……feels like a new adolescence, sort of.

Is this the end of me?…………Or the beginning of a NEW me?

What’s around the unknown curve?……new horizons look foggy now…

Will anyone want to hear what I have to say now?

Am I “too old” to be respected and heard?


Am I finally “old enough” to be respected and heard for all I have learned & experienced?

Without questions, there are no answers. I’m learning to hold these uncomfortable questions, trusting the answers will come in their own time.

I tell myself it’s OK to feel adrift in new, uncharted waters.

Image How else will I discover new lands?

About Linda Marten, MSW

Linda Marten is a California Credentialed Parent Educator since 1998, a former LAUSD parent educator & teacher advisor for 14 years, and a Member of the California Teachers Association (CTA) . She holds a Masters degree in Social Work from University of Washington and has extensive experience teaching and training parents and teachers. Linda leads interactive, informative workshops for parents, youth, and teachers from diverse socio-economic, racial and cultural backgrounds focusing on numerous issues related to parenting as well as helping youth who want to stop being bullied. Ms. Marten is a "bully expert" and has had great success teaching youth the "Bullies to Buddies" method developed by Izzy Kalman, school psychologist. After extensive practice & training with Izzy Kalman, Linda became a certified "Bullies to Buddies" Trainer in 2017. Linda provides private sessions by appointment. She is also the mother of two children.
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2 Responses to Questions from an Empty Nester in a New Land

  1. kellysalasin says:

    Thank you for voicing the questions that we all have–whether we are aware of them or not 🙂
    I’m enjoying the read, Traveling with Pomegrantes, which touches on this deep place of transition.
    Yours in the Journey,


  2. kellysalasin says:

    pomegranates 🙂


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